In the end only you can answer that question. Most people find the 12 Characteristics of Sex and Love Addiction to be a helpful place to start and see if any of those apply.

SLAA meetings are like all twelve step meetings all over the world. Each community and each meeting is unique but follows the same general framework. The meetings are an opportunity for members to share their experience, strength and hope about recovery from sex and love addiction. Members identify themselves by first name only. Our stories disclose what we were like, what happened to change us, and what we are like now. Meetings may have formats relating to Step Study, Newcomer, Speaker, Getting Current, etc. Meetings may be closed (for identified sex and love addicts only) or open to all persons.

All of these are Twelve Step programs focusing on sexual addiction. S.L.A.A. includes love addiction, relationship, and sexual anorexia. Other “S” programs may also have different membership requirements and bottom line definitions. Hopefully, viewing their web sites can be sufficient enough for you to decide which program suits your needs the best. If not, try each of them out by going to the meetings near you.

There are no dues or fees for S.L.A.A. membership, according to Tradition 7. Typically, an offering basket is passed for voluntary contributions at meetings. A $1 or $2 donation is customary but not mandatory.

Yes. You are not required to believe in God to attend meetings. Twelve step programs are spiritual in nature and include the belief in a Higher Power, but are not affiliated with any religion, sect, or denomination. Your concept of a Higher Power can be whatever you want it to be. Some use the group itself as something more powerful than themselves.

It is recommended that you attend meetings regularly and listen attentively to those members who share and do service at your meetings. If there is someone with whom you share a common story, you respect their level of recovery or you think this person can be helpful to you in recovery, simply approach this person and ask him or her to be your sponsor. It is recommended that you do not choose a person of the same gender to which you are attracted.

No, you don’t have to share anything unless you want to. You may be asked your first name, just to identify yourself as or to other newcomers.

Yes. Telephone meetings are a great way to supplement your process – especially when getting to physical meetings is challenging in your area. Check out the information at https://slaafws.org/telephonemeetings

People who have a desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction. This addiction can take many forms, including but not limited to, a compulsive need for sex, extreme dependency on one person (or many), and/or a chronic preoccupation with romance, intrigue,and fantasy. Sex and love addiction may also take the form of anorexia, a compulsive avoidance of giving or receiving social, sexual, or emotional nourishment. We are united in a common focus: dealing with our addictive sexual and emotional behavior which renders any personal differences of sexual or gender orientation irrelevant.